A different approach I've been taking lately is just to put my head down and plow through it.....not sticking my head in the sand anymore, just working through things. Life does throw crap at you from time to time and all of this stuff tends to build up over time and if you don't address it, it will eventually catch up with you.
My ex's father passed away recently.....my girls had to face the funeral of their grandpa without their mother being there........one of the nasty results of divorce. Don't get me wrong, I've been there for them, they've talked, they've cried......and I've been there. I went out of my comfort zone in the days prior to his passing and went to this hospital to visit him and his wife.....I am so very glad that I did - though it was a sad visit, it was also a healing visit for both my former MIL and myself. We spent over an hour reminiscing about old times......wow. RIP Jonas, you will be missed by so many people who loved you.
So here I sit, on the balcony of our condo in Florida thinking, wishing..........and hoping.